Thursday, July 30, 2015

Finding the perfect crop top for curvy girls

Crop tops are a rage now, a must-have in every fashionista's list. And being the in-vogue girl that I am ,I too wanted it in my wardrobe. But there was a catch ...." I am voluptuous " and was a bit skeptical as crop top shows a bit of midriff and is not very flattering if you aren't "the wash board abs" type. It was a difficult task ahead ...
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But , I found my perfect piece rather soon....I was randomly surfing one of my favourite
Online shopping sites www.koovs.com and I came across this one. I ordered it instantly. And I got it the next day ....yayyy!!! Hurriedly , I tried it and wow! It fitted fine. There are a few things to be kept in mind when buying a crop top -

- don't but the bralet/ bustier type...it is merciless for girls with curves.

- buy in dark hue if you are top heavy.

- preferably buy one with sleeves because anyways your mid section shows.

- go for boxy type which are a bit loose and add a cool casual touch to your attire.

- choose a skater skirt over pencil skirt as it helps disguise the small paunch You might have.

- if going for the pencil skirt crop top combo set wear a cape/ shrug/ jacket for that added oomph.










Though it was the first crop top I bought, now I have a full range which I will try to wear in upcoming posts. Have a look and let me know , if you liked :)finding the perfect crop top for curvy girls

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Pout and pigtails

Hey ! I am in love with pigtails these days . It is such a comfortable yet chic hairstyle for hot humid weather . I got hooked to it after I saw my little niece with this hair do. And it is super easy to do ....all you have to do is part your hair from middle and make ponytails on both sides . Now roll each ponytail around its base like bun . Crunch it with a rubber / u- shaped pins ...whatever is comfy and you are good to go .

Well , what I am wearing here is a dress created by yours truly. Yeah ! I designed this beautiful blue kaftan . I love kaftans , they are relaxed yet super stylish and  i have one for every occasion . Simple and sophisticated ,they suit my body type. Earlier , kaftan were used as mere coverup on your beach wear but now they are in ' vogue' big time.

The key is to accessorize smartly ...
-when wearing an embellished kaftan , keep accessories to the minimum. 
-use chunky /statement jewellery to highlight a plain or monotone kaftan.
- wear Stilletoes for a formal look.
- wedges or flats guarantee a casual relaxed look.

These pigtails remind me of my childhood ....
Pouting - no more a little girl ...haahaa

Posing against a pole

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Ever smiling ! This is my favourite pose 




Monday, July 13, 2015

Trend alert - Denim skirt



A trend which is making it's way back in our wardrobes with  aplomb is the denim skirt. And I am more than happy . Denims is quintessentially the most loved and worn piece of garment , across the globe. It has a young , peppy, cool feel to it. It got lost somewhere in the vast array of dresses , maxis, skirts but now it is a huge trend . Designer from Paris to Milan are experimenting with it . It is a must - have item in your closet for spring summer 2015.

Denim skirt can be

- paired with a cool tee , sneakers and a sling bag for the cool comfy look.

- wear a lace blouse and gladiators for chic look .

- team it up with a shirt and heels and you are good to go clubbing.

- can also pair it with crop top and wedges for a date / lunch with friends.

- you can experiment with the length as well keeping up with your comfort level. But knee length is the most preferred and it suits almost everyone.

- denims look especially 'cool' when paired with whites....a combo which never goes wrong.

What I am wearing

Skirt- vero moda
Top - maxx fashion
Wedges - www.rooja.com
Glares- www.fashionara.com
Bracelet - lifestyle





Sunday, July 12, 2015

How to wear prints on prints







Prints are the latest fad globally .Many of you must have seen this trend  on ramp all across but girls are embracing it with much love in their wardrobe too. Personally I am not a great fan of prints except for the quirky ones. 

 But being a fashion blogger , you have to be one up . So I experimented it by wearing polka dots , stripes and checks , in monochrome. I absolutely love monochrome which you guys are aware of.

The basic key to wearing prints on prints -

- is to have at least one colour common in both your top and bottom.

- the second colour could be either of the same family like dark or lighter  or should be in stark Contrast.

- the patterns of both the top and bottom should complement each other.

-use the same pattern in large and small.

- same print in bold contrasting

- you could choose pre mixed print .

- use a belt to break the monotony.

- if in doubt, wear polka dots and stripes...they work every time.  





Add  bold accessories - like i wore my bright red heels which provided a contrast as well as highlighted the monochrome.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Spellbound

What if Cinderella was ugly yet kind , virtuous and courageous and her step sisters beautiful yet ruthless and mean . Who would the prince choose? #Cinderellawithatwist
 

        " Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder". Yes , beauty is very subjective . What I  may find beautiful , may not appear attractive to you and vice versa .
P . S -  Ugly is too derogatory a term to be used for a person. So , I would replace it with 'not appealing or attractive'  to the prince.

Cinderella has been one of my favourite fairy tale of all times. I have read it many times and even watched the movie  and I don't remember her being described as a ' moon lit ' beauty. It's  her other virtues which are highlighted - being a kind hearted , compassionate soul.

Even if she was un attractive , I don't think it mattered to the Prince. The Prince was a well read , intelligent and a mature man. When Cinderella leaves the Ball in hurry leaving her 'glass slipper ' behind , the Prince sends his soldiers to find her. He never describes her as a peaches and cream complexioned , blue eyed , golden tressed , cinched waisted gorgeous beauty. Instead he orders them to make sure " all the maiden in the land " tries the slipper . All meant all , they may be tall , short, fair, dark, voluptuous, lean and so on....

And how can we forget , Cinderella is a fairy tale where  ' good always triumph  over evil' . So we never know, Cinderella may have been under some spell . When the Prince proclaims his love for her, the spell breaks . And as always ,
                                   

                                                         They live happily ever after

Thursday, July 9, 2015

Love , unconditionally

This post is in relation to a topic - what if one day your son/ daughter announces he/she is a gay and how would you react to it. # loveislove.
I took the liberty of saying it in a fictional form as a story but I wholly endorse the views of the mother.

                                                          Love , Unconditionally 


It was around 11' o clock at night and I am relaxing in my cosy bed , reading Elif Shafak's  -" Forty rules of love" , being  transported into another world - of love , poetry and dreams. My eyes are droopy and ready for 8 hrs of beauty siesta when there's a quaint knock on the door. I look up only to find my handsome heart monster, my sonny boy , standing . He is not his usual chirpy effervescent self. He wants to talk to me , privately ,just the two of us. I am worried but putting a brave facade , asks him if all is well? Mom , I need to talk to you.....I have a confession to make, he says softly. Confession .......

Thousands of thoughts cross my mind in a jiffy.....what would it be.....puzzled , I am looking at his face. His expressions change.....from frightful and scared , he looks worried now. How will his adorable mom take the news that he is about to give her..........

    Mom, you please sit.....have a glass of water , he runs to grap the glass from the nightstand and passes it . Instead, I hold his hand , keeping the glass down. I look at him , in eye.....Mom, his voice almost trembling, I am.....( he stops).......what ....I ask ? almost panicked .

He gets up and walks to the window, turns ,looks at me......." I am a homo......gay" . Have I heard it right?  He steals a glance from the corner of his eye... I am stunned....

  I don't know what to say, I go numb. How could my child be 'that'....he was sensitive, intelligent ,compassionate , a topper throughout.....studying in a top university in the U.S.....was there some problem with my upbringing ? How could I go so horribly wrong?  What if everyone comes to know tomorrow ? How will they react? Will they make fun of my baby? Tears came rolling down...
Meanwhile, my little man had his gaze fixed on 'mom' , silently.

Could I make him change his mind, his choice.....after all he was a mama's boy. I could take a promise from him, making him swear on me, to not indulge in 'such things '. I knew he would bow down, he loved me so much.....

.......so, couldn't he be thinking on the same lines....mom loves me too much , to dissent. I had got my answer....love unconditionally ....this was the golden rule , I had lived by all my life. When I took my little one in my arms, for the first time I vowed to love, care and protect him. He has confided in me , knowing his mother loves him unconditionally and would understand. Now, it was my turn.
After all , aren't parent like the solid ' Rock of Gibraltor' you could fall back on, supporting you , always. My son has made a choice, I will stand by it no matter what. His happiness means the world to me.

Mom! Don't cry , whispered my baby....I hugged him, tightly. Mom , mom....was all he could say...I love you , dear!  I am with you...I  replied...He hugged me even tighter, tears dropping .

Love is the foundation of life. Love is pure and pristine. Love unconditionallyEven Elif Shafak says in  'forty rules of love' - " Love will find you.......you will find it in the most unusual places".
Love is love , no matter what.

Curvy-shurvy: Happy girls are the prettiest

Curvy-shurvy: Happy girls are the prettiest:                                 Audrey Hepburn once said " happy girls are the prettiest". And yes , it is true in every sense...

Happy girls are the prettiest


                                Audrey Hepburn once said " happy girls are the prettiest".

And yes , it is true in every sense.....you may be wondering why I am being so philosophical today. Well , I keep getting mails and messages as to how come I am so confident even after being voluptuous and curvy . Day before , a message came on my blogpost , which said I should follow a certain blog if I was worried about my increasing weight. Hmmm, all i would like to say - thanks a lot for being concerned .

 My confidence comes from the fact that I am content with my body and am in a happy space. I embrace it with all my love . No, I am not supporting unhealthy living .....I am a firm believer in being fit and leading a healthy life. I , do not drink or smoke , am a vegetarian , practice yoga , exercise and eat healthy ( most of the times). I love my body unconditionally , inspite of the flaws , as it is responsible for letting me bring two beautiful babies in this world. Being a mother transforms your body , mind and soul...

         Let me tell you something , a person who is a few pounds extra is generally the first one to notice it and has even tried losing it ( and failed) . You don't have to remind him/ her every time and every where. This weight tamasha is gaining so much momentum these days. You enter a party and there is alway a 'someone' to tell you , how much weight you have gained / lost.

    A couple of years back, I went to a party wearing a pink organdy ( cotton which is heavily starched to keep the fabric stiff ) saree , my cousin complemented me and then said " mom never allows me wear cotton Sarees, if you can look so good in it , even i can carry it well ". I retorted back " what's stopping you and why isn't aunty allowing you"? I was dumbstruck when I heard what she had to say,......"no one is going to marry you , if you look like a pig in a cotton tent" her mom would always say, pointing to her weight which was just a couple of kilos on the higher side. Of course ! In our country , a girl has to be "fair and lovely " (read - tall ,thin etc) to get married.

There are so many other attributes which are important other than vanity....being sensitive , respectful, compassionate.....

When I started this blog , I very well knew I may have to deal with such topics.....then too I went ahead . The first step is acknowledgement and  next is acceptance . Yes ! I have embraced my body with all it's flaws....it's imperfections . It's mine and I love it .Don't  feel the need to be like 'someone' or to 'belong' somewhere . We all are different and that's the beauty of it .

 Yes ! I want to be fit and healthy but not because " I have to" but "I want to ".






















   
                   Happy girls are the prettiest

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Curvy-shurvy: Pastel punch!!!!

Curvy-shurvy: Pastel punch!!!!

Making that perfect black forest cake!!!


Heya! I love cakes and bakes(anything baked)and always wanted to master the "art of perfect baking",but just could not somehow. I am not very sure for the reason,whether lack of time or motivation or a combination of both. But as you are aware, I was pretty much relaxing at mom's place(my haven)for last couple of weeks and there I randomly told mom that I would like to bake a cake.My li'l niece, all of 5 years, was so excited by the thought of 'bhua' making the cake that I had to "do it" for her. And there was no going back now. Baking was nothing new to me and I was once an 'avid baker' or so,I would like to believe. So,apprehensively I started...... ........and when after half an hour of working(preparation + baking),I very nervously(more nervous than giving viva or awaiting results as the 'judges' here were the little kids, who look upto you) took the tin out. And , voila! Came a perfectly baked chocolate cake. Khushi( my adorable little niece) looked at the cake and then at me, with the most brightly lit eyes, jumped in happiness. I had finally 'passed'. As for the few pictures( I had no time to present it properly as the li'l monsters were dying to take the plunge).

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